• Thinking you can "spot" one
• Expecting gay or lesbian people to change their public identity or affectional habits or mode of dress
• Changing your seat in a meeting because a lesbian or gay man sat in the chair next to yours
• Kissing an old friend but being afraid to shake hands with a lesbian or gay
• Failing to be supportive when a gay or lesbian friend is sad about a quarrel or breakup of a relationship
• Worrying about the effect a gay or lesbian volunteer or co-worker will have on your programs
• Not asking about a woman's female lover or a man's male lover, although you regularly ask about a husband or wife or boyfriend or girlfriend when you run into a heterosexual friend
• Thinking that if gays or lesbians touch you, they are making sexual advances
• Feeling repulsed by public displays of affection between lesbian women and gay men, but accepting the same affectional displays between heterosexuals as "nice"
• Feeling that gay people are too outspoken about gay rights
• Believing that discussions about homosexuality and homophobia are not necessary
• Being outspoken about gay rights, but making sure everyone knows that you are straight
• Avoiding mentioning to your friends that you are involved with a woman's organization, because you are afraid that they will think you are lesbian
• Not confronting a heterosexist remark for fear of being identified as gay or lesbian
• Using the terms gay and lesbian as accusatory

Source: http://www.ncf.carleton.ca/ip/sigs/life/gay/homo/homophobia.ex

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