When you see something, do something.
What is a bystander?
Bystanders are the largest group of people involved in violence - they greatly outnumber both the perpetrators and the victims.
Bystanders have a range of involvement in assaults. Some know that a specific assault is happening or will happen, some see an assault or potential assault in progress, and some know that assaults do happen.
Regardless of how close to the assault they are, bystanders have the power stop assaults from occurring and to get help for people
who have been victimized.
What is the bystander Effect?
The term Bystander Effect refers to the phenomenon in which the greater the number of people present, the less likely people are to help a person in distress. When an emergency situation occurs, observers are more likely to take action if there are few or no other witnesses.
The power of bystanders!
What can you do to help as a bystander?
The 5 point Formula:
Let the person know you care about him/her and that because of the significance of the relationship you need to discuss something very important. Both starting and ending the discussion with an emphasis that you are doing this out of genuine concern, caring and respect for the person, sandwiches the difficult feedback between strong positives. Choose words you are comfortable with and fit your style.
Report/Review actual events with your friend, as you perceive them. Remember you are evaluating the behavior not the person. Try to limit your statements to observable, irrefutable facts. The more you have, the better.
Tell the person your own feelings using "I statements" to reveal your feelings.
Tell the person what you would like to see happen.
Specify what you will or will not do. Only set ultimatums if you can, and will, stick to them.
Sources: University of Arizona Step up Program, Stop Abuse at Virgina Tech Program and Psychology:The Bystander Effect